What Is Couples Therapy
Couples therapy is for individuals in partner relationships, dating, committed or married. Part of this process is resolving unfinished business, enhancing communication, conflict resolution, negotiation skills, as well as enriching intimacy in the relationship. Building safety as well as reigniting desire in the relationship.
Through couples therapy I assist couples in gaining direction for their relationship or overcoming challenges faced within the relationship. This can be to address specific aspects of their relationship, making decisions, negotiating difficult things to mention a few. I believe couples therapy is about practically addressing the difficulties so the couple can take what they gain from therapy and apply in daily life.
Areas where couples therapy can assist include:
- Enhancing communication within the couple
- Restoring emotional closeness, intimacy and relationship satisfaction within the relationship
- Developing healthy boundaries within the relationship
- Resolving conflict and enhancing skills for the couple to resolve conflict moving forward in their relationship
- Infidelity in the relationship
4 Ways to Regulate Anxiety
When anxious, we tend to trap inside our mind. Try bringing ourselves back to the present helps giving us a more realistic perspective. A simple breathing exercise would help to stimulate our body's relaxation response. Taking a walk and while walking, pay attention to how your feet contact with the ground, the sensation of wind touches your skin, the objects in the surrounding and even the smell of the environment. All these bring us back to our senses and help us to relieve from worries.
2. Body over mind
When we're stuck in our worries and anxiety, it may be hard to alter our thinking. Since our body, mind and feelings are all connected, we can try using our body to calm our mind. Try having a cup of hot drink, a nice meal which help to activate the parasympathetic nervous system. Our body sends the signals to our mind that we are safe so you mind could relax.
3. Keeping a healthy gut
Research has tied mental health issues to gut health. Taking probiotics supplement, adding more probiotic foods such as yoghurt, kimchi and sauerkraut to your diet can help ease anxiety and depression.
4. Reaching out
Practising awareness and acceptance of yourself and your situation.Talking about your worries helps with cognitive reframing and gaining perspective. So reach out to a friend or family member or go for therapy. It offers a safe and non-judging space for us to unload and possibly understanding the root cause of our anxiety.
Recently, I was asked to offer insight on how to cope with our anxiety about returning to the office. Here is the article in The Gentlemen's Journal:
Going Beyond What We Think We Are Capable Of
We often think "certainty" equals to "safety." In fact, these two are different. Although certainty seems to be safe, it limits us from evolving and we could be trapped in rigid behaviours that no longer serve us.
For useful change to happen we sometimes need to become less certain of the positions we hold. When we become less certain of the positions we hold we are more likely to become receptive to other possibilities, other meanings we might put to events. If we can become more open to
the possible influence of other perspectives, we open up space for other views to be stated and heard.
Going into therapy may feel like stepping into an unknown territory and may trigger fear in us. However with a commitment to experimenting with difference, we are more likely to bring positive changes in our lives.
Are you ready to step into this safe uncertainty and to create a life that you'd like to live?